When I tell people that I don't want children, the first thing they say is "That's now, you'll want them later". When I say no, I don't think I'll ever want children, they look at me as though I have sinned. Ok, so maybe Asian countries find it hard to accept that some women actually do not want children, but it is my choice. I do not feel as though I have to bow to the pressure of my future in-laws, relatives, friends, or even society. If my future husband is ok with not having children, what business is it of anyone else's? I agree, maybe this post will come back to bite me on the bum, but I am 22 this year, and still cannot imagine myself wanting children.
Why? That is what most people want to know. All around me are kids as young as 15 saying "Oh, my child's name will be xxx", or "I want 3 kids". I was never that girl. I've always said I don't want kids. Why? Well first of all, let's get past the selfish reasons. I don't want to go through the pain of pregnancy. I don't want to go through the pain of labour. I don't want to ruin my figure (it's bad enough as it is). I don't want to have sleepless nights cz my baby's crying. I don't want to have to worry about where the money's coming from to buy milk, diapers, toys and clothes; and as they get older school fees, pocket money, etc etc etc. I don't want the responsibility of looking after an innocent, vulnerable human being. Make sense? No, probably not. I did say they were the selfish reasons.
Other reasons? I don't want to worry day & night about the safety of my child. This, is my main reason. With the world what it is today, I think it's selfish to bring another human being into this world to suffer. Yes, you may argue that there are many joys through the sorrows of this world. I know. But if I'm not even sure whether I can keep myself safe in this day & age, do I really want to risk someone getting hurt, just cz I didn't take care of them enough, or just because they were unlucky enough to meet with such bad luck? With this world that is full of murders, rapists, thieves... Greed, lust, and people who are willing to turn a blind eye to whatever is happening to others... I have heard so many horror stories I don't even read / watch the news anymore. I've heard how we should ignore crimes that are happening around us to ensure our own safety, how even the police do not dare to stop these criminals, these gangs. And why is this? Cz evil is more powerful than good? Cz there are more evil people in this world than good? Or maybe cz criminals do what they want and feel is necessary, while we just sit on the sidelines waiting for others to do something?
This world is more advanced than ever before. We have more examples of crimes to look upon and learn. More people are educated enough, have enough financial backing, and enough status to change the world, get us out of this crime-ridden era, and make the world a more peaceful place to live in. And it's not just up to politicians, celebs, or VIPs. Everyone has a role to play. We should fight together, fight for the safety of our children, for the safety of the elderly, for the safety of ourselves. We have 2 world wars in our history, and hundreds of other wars. Why can't we learn from our mistakes and do all that is in our power to stop more wars from happening? Why are people so greedy for one? Please, enlighten me. What can you do with all that money? What joy does it bring you from having so much power? Especially if you get that power from hurting all mankind?
We need to stop this, stop it before it gets too far gone. We are too intelligent to let history repeat itself. Let's go back to being humans, not the cold-blooded monsters this world is exceedingly rampant with. Let us say when we see crime on the street, we will feel confident in rushing to help the victim, confident in the fact that other bystanders will help us, or at least call the police, and the police will do their duty and help innocent civillians. Let's make planet Earth safe again, once and for all.
Maybe then, I'll feel good about bringing another life into this world.